Now your next mantra can be 
"I Am Open To Change".

Greeting change with open arms is easy,
said no one,
EVER!

It is just human nature to resist all change,
and that resistance to something that is so inevitable,
is the cause of much of your heartache.

Just as surely the sun rises and sets,
as the tides come in ,and go out,
as the Earth spins on it's axis,
there will be change.

Change is actually the foundation on which you build your lives.
That seems counter intuitive,
because a foundation needs to be solid.
By its inevitability, change is the base, the groundwork,
on which each moment chosen.
These moments become days, and then years,
and before you know it, you have lived your life
reacting to these changes.

If we told you that every change was the doorway to something better,
how would that feel?
Would you shake your fist in the air and say 
" I just lost my job"!
" Someone stole my money"!
" I have to relocate to a place where I know no one"!
" My dog died"!
"This does not feel better to me"!

Now what if we told you that in the midst of this change,
this chaos,
these howling winds of emotion,
lies a jewel, a present.

It is the gift of being open to what comes next.

"I Am Open To Change"

As you stand in the storm of uncertainty,
armed with your knowledge that all things change,
and we told you knowledge is power,
will you use that as your foundation?
will you now look for the jewel?

You may have no idea what comes next,
and that can be terrifying,
but please know that something better is what comes next,
use THAT as your foundation for the next moment,
and the next, 
and the next.
Armed with that perception,
change can become exciting, even exhilarating,
and begin to hold no fear.

So when the opening begins, density pours out,
fear
pain
Anger is in the mix as well,
that is another choice in reaction to the pain and fear.

If that feels appropriate for you, 
feel it and let it go, 
don't become stuck there,
for it is a secondary emotion,
and can feel so much better than pain and fear,

that's right! It feels better in the body to feel anger,than to feel fear or hurt.

Dr Jill Bolte Taylor, a brain scientist,
wrote in her book,
"My Stroke of Insight"
"It takes “less than 90 seconds” for an emotion to get triggered, surge chemically through the blood stream, then get flushed out."

Hear that, FEEL that, take that in:
An emotion lasts for 90 seconds from start to finish.
You see or hear something that makes you angry,
and it will run its course thru your nervous system,
thru your body, in 90 seconds!

That is if...you don't rerun the initial event that caused
the emotion in your mind.
If you do that, if you rerun the emotion,
then it can last in your psyche and in your body
for 90 minutes, 90 days, even 90 years!!

So...you can tolerate any intense emotion for 90 seconds,
Anger,
Grief,
Fear,
You have the control!
It's you call!

As this energy prompts and facilitates your opening,
what comes flying out first?
Pain and fear!

Bang! Your first impulse...close back up!
It's too much!
It's too messy and chaotic!
And you are the microcosm,
this is happening on the world stage as well.
You are seeing it everywhere!

As humanity goes, so goes the planet.
As you all start to open up,
all the skeletons fly out of the closet,
all the secrets are reveled,
no more dark corners to hide in,
and the world at large mirrors this back to you.

Now...how you perceive this will be the difference
between being caught up and overwhelmed by pain and fear,
or riding the wave, because you are conscious of what and why this is happening.
Knowledge is power.

To get to all the good stuff inside, 
all the dark, dense stuff has to leave first.
Do you get that?
Of course you do.
So don't be worried, or frightened by it,
and certainly don't stop opening!

The best is yet to come, 
for each of you individually and the planet as well.
So just watch in educated awe
as these secrets come to light,
as the pain is felt, and then subsides.
Let the light of truth and openness 
fill all the nooks and crannies,
to reveal only clarity and transparency.

There are areas of complication in life.
They are like knots in an otherwise smooth chain.
How do you approach these knots?
Are you someone who, in their struggle to untangle
the knot, just pulls it tighter?

Do you lack the patience and perseverance it takes 
to slowly and methodically release each knot?

Or... can you find the Zen in the art of untangling the knots?
The approach that works is one of unfocused, focus.
WHAT??!
Yep, unfocused, focus.

Being easily focused, with a softness.
Not a harsh laser beam type focus,
that pulls the knot tighter.

When you look at a knot in a chain,
with a soft focus, it will show you how to untangle it.
You will softly roll it around, and gently start pulling
from the outside edges.
As you untangle the edges, the center,
the part that is knotted the tightest, will start to unravel.

Done right, with unfocused focus, 
you will see where to pull to loosen, and
it will literally open up and unknot itself.

Try that with the knots in your life,
be Zen about them.
Approach them with a softer focus and let them 
reveal where to pull, and soon you will watch them
untangle themselves with the least amount of effort from you.

You should NEVER use these words.
Just kidding!!
But the truth is, these are very inflammatory words because they are so definitive...and more than likely, not true.
Yet, we accuse people all the time, using these two words

.
You never take out the trash,
you never tell me you love me,
you never let me get a word in edgewise,
you never cease to amaze me,
you never shut up!

You're all guilty of using one, or all of these , and truth be told, they are not accurate, and can incite rage!

How about these:
He always takes the last cookie,
You always say that,
You always try to get in the last word,
You always make me feel bad,
You're always late.
More than likely...not true.

Never means no time EVER!
never in the past or future, 
not.at.all...

Always means EVERY time,
without fail
constantly,
forever

Really?!
So these words are not accurate,
and we want you to pay attention to your words that you use,
especially in your intimate relationships.

So...in your next argument, leave out the 
always and the 
never's
It will force you to be more conscious and more accurate in 
what you want to convey, and will be met with much more receptive 
ears and hearts.

Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered
The lyrics to this song are comical,
but they kind of sum up three of the states 
you've been finding yourself in as of late.

They can all apply to the same relationship, situation,
or project at any given time.
When things are going smoothly, there is a kind of magical
spell you find yourself under.
You become bewitched , enchanted and delighted,
finding synchronicity around every corner, with a skip in your step,
a smile on your face, and joy in your heart.

That very same, person, job, or situation, 
can then shift, turning into a big mess, 
where nothing goes right, anything that can go wrong
does! and besides that, your computer is down and there
is lousy cell phone reception everywhere you go!
You find yourself bothered by even the smallest details.

Then just as suddenly, the events change again!
The seas calm, the storm is over, miracles seem to occur,
and there you stand...
scratching your head, feeling confused and bewildered.
What an emotional roller coaster!

RELAX! 
Now that you've experienced this a couple of times,
you must realize that when things look bad, and you haven't a clue,
there is that bewitching, magical, enchanting state just around the corner!

Things are changing SO fast now.
Smile at being bothered, and laugh at bewilderment,
they're funny! They turn you upside down, spin you around,
face you in a different direction....
Right onto the path of delight, and enchantment,
feeling bewitched all over again!

By setting boundaries and showing by example,
you teach the people in your life how to treat you.
Will you accept not being treated with love and respect?
or will you stand tall and say "hey, that's not okay"!
It can even be telling a friend you will not tolerate their chronic
lateness.

Do you show others that same love and respect that you seek?

Boundaries are difficult for some people to enforce, 
for they fear they will lose something if they do.
If a love or a job or a friend evaporates because you 
ask to be treated a certain way, then it was not grounded in
any way that could have been sustained over time.
In other words, it was not REALLY a friend, or a lover 
and the cost was too high.

When you treat others with respect and fairness,
kindness, empathy, and love, it is returned to you ten fold.

It boils down to your self worth, and wether you will let 
any person or situation chip away at that.
It also shows you if you are recognizing the worth of 
those around you, and if you value it equally, 
or more than your own.

If you are nurturing, you will be nurtured.
Generosity brings you generous acts,
Thoughtfulness will be rewarded,

Always show your gratitude when someone treats you
wonderfully, for they may be teaching YOU ways you 
should be treated that you hadn't imagined.
And then return the favor!

Everything in Moderation...Even Moderation
Moderation in life is an admirable aspiration.

Staying mindful when eating,
Having temperance in volatile situations,
being appropriate, 
having a measured response,
These things will all serve you well in life.
Just be careful you don't over moderate , 
moderation!

Where's the spark?
Where's the ZaZaZu?
Where's the fiery debate?
Where's the sparkle?
Where the joy?

There is a certain safety in moderation,
a feeling of security.
That is a fine thing to have.
But don't forget to occasionally shake things up!

Color outside the lines!
Waaaaaay outside the lines!
Laugh too loud,eat all the bacon!
drive fast,
eat desert, maybe two!! ( we can hear the gasps)!
wear green,
have a glass of wine...or two ( oh my)!
eat in bed,
be messy,
be naughty,
Come on! Live life!

We're not saying to do these things all the time,
but remember to cut loose every once in awhile.
It will make you a much more interesting person,
and much more fun to be around,
and it will put a skip in your step,
and some pizazz back in your life ;-)

We are goings to extrapolate on this topic,
because it resonated so much with many of you.
That is so Good!
and really new.
A couple of years ago, you were not ready,
but things have changed, 
Oh my! how they've changed!
and you are starting to see light at the end of the tunnel.

All right!
Here is the definition of Receive:

re·ceive  /riˈsēv/

Verb
Be given, presented with, or paid (something): "most businesses will receive a tax cut".
Take delivery of (something sent or communicated): "he received fifty inquiries".
Synonyms
get - take - accept - obtain - admit - welcome

We love doing this, showing the definition,
it adds such clarification.

In this definition, the ones we want to focus on today
are three of the synonyms.
ACCEPT
ADMIT
WELCOME
These are all great in concept, 
but get sticky in their execution.

Accepting help.
Ouch! We know, not so easy.
That is such a huge step in receiving.
Letting others help you.
You benefit greatly,but so do the others!
Why deny them that pleasure?
It does not make you weak, on the contrary, it shows tremendous strength to ask for help. Ponder that awhile, it feels so foreign, and you want to discard it immediately,

DO NOT

Admitting love into your life.
Really!? That one's even worse, even harder.
To receive love, you have to take the first step of 
becoming vulnerable, and giving it admittance into your heart.
That. Is . Huge.
We know.
But the benefits so far outweigh any downside to this.
It does get messy, we agree,
it can hurt, we know.
But when you soften your heart, let down the walls,
and allow admittance of another, two lives are changed...
forever!
Let THAT sink in too.

Now welcoming.
To welcome something is to stand open armed,
smile on your face, and embrace it.
Can you welcome change? Anything that comes your way?
Come on!! now you're asking too much!
Just stand openly and receive whatever life has to offer?
You mean say YES instead of no?
Zig when I want to zag?
Not only embrace change, but run with it?
What could possibly be the benefit in that?

Well, let's see...
Less stress,
more happiness,
a more open mind,
an unburdened heart,
surprises,
miracles.
And so much more!
We are not kidding about this.

Along with your mantra
I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING
try on 
ACCEPTING
ADMITTING 
WELCOMING
just stick your toes in at first.
These are three keys to help unlock the doors
to better days ahead, and the life you've always dreamt of.

I Am Open To Receiving

Let this mantra go into your head
and spend some time there, cleaning out all doubt.
Say it often, for at certain times,
it will mean something entirely different.

There can be a problem,
a disconnect,
when you are wanting something,
really asking with all your intent,
but there is a part of you that is not open,
not comfortable with,
doesn't feel deserving of,
or worthy of receiving.

Whatever the reason,
usually something in childhood,
it may have felt valid then...
but honestly, haven't you had enough 
of the wounds of childhood,
that were seen with the eyes of a child,
and processed with the understanding of a child,
being the filter thru which you run your happiness as adults?

Yes! You are!

Running this mantra through your mind as often as you think
of it, 
will start to shift you into an energy of reception.
It may feel uncomfortable at first.
Like wearing shoes that are too tight and
you will have a million internal arguments of 
why that statement feels untrue.

Then the exhilaration will set in,
and you will start to breathe easier.
Every time you repeat this phrase

I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING

It will wrestle with the self doubt 
and unworthiness, truly leaving you open 
and willing to receive all the wonderful things,
the big life, 
that the Universe has been stockpiling for you!

Your path chooses you
Thru all life's up and downs
zigs and zags,
riches to rags,
and back around

Down endless halls,
with doors galore,
you stand before,
destiny calls

A fork in the road,
which path to choose,
it chooses you,
lighten your load

The way is clear,
your feet take flight,
it all feels right,
no need to steer

What we mean to say,
with minimum fuss,
listen to us
without delay

Your path in life,
it chooses you
it beckons you,
with minimum strife

So when your path begins to zag
follow along
it won't be wrong,
look for the flags

They lead to joy and freedom too,
so drop your fear,
it will be clear,
your path has chosen you!

Believing Is Seeing and Seeing Is Believing
Your life reflects what you believe.
We know! We say this a lot!
but make no mistake, 
your beliefs are the templates,
the prisms,
the filters,
whatever you can understand, and take into your heart.

Your beliefs dictate what you expect out of life.
You have the belief life is hard,
then you expect things to go down the hard way,
and by golly! They do not disappoint!

Even if something goes smoothly and is easy,
you wait for the "other shoe to drop".
Because that's just the way life is, 
and sure enough, "Look out below"! 
here comes the other shoe, disguised as hardship.

You believe it
You see it
then...
you see it
so you believe it.
get it?
It is self perpetuating,
but it can be corrected.

You have to be conscious of what you believe,therefore what you expect.

" I'm no good with money"
guess what, you're always broke.

" I always pick the wrong men"
Oh look, another break up.

"I can't get that job, because_______ (fill in the blank)
and you stay in your current job that you hate.

" I expect the worst, that way I'm not disappointed"
Wow, you just served yourself up a lifetime of disappointment,
it will come out of nowhere just to make you right!

Do you understand?
be careful.
Take a mental inventory of your beliefs.
That should be easy, just look around.
Now pay attention, and change the things you don't like.

You all carry with you qualities and talents
that you have mastered over many lifetimes.
That knowledge never leaves your soul, 
it is just forgotten, buried under that heavy veil,
that let's you pretend to be you this time around.

In this new energy it is easier to retrieve those gifts,
and use them in your present, to make life easier and more enjoyable.
Doesn't that make sense?
Why would you accumulate wisdom and talent, 
only to die and have to start all over again!
That was then, and this is now!

Some of the children are showing you how it's done.
Great musicians, scientists, scholars, teachers, and poets
are all returning and picking up where they left off!
They learn to walk and talk much earlier than most,
and they just get on with it! 

You don't have to be literally re born to remember,
you can have your rebirth here and now.
Start asking before you go to sleep to go and look thru
your own library of talents,
of what you are good at and have mastered.
Then pick the ones you think could serve you now, 
and bring them back, and remember them

Do it when you meditate, when you walk,when you drive.

Remove your doubt about this, 
you know you have these abilities, 
and some of you are struggling in this life, with things you
wrote books about and taught in your past.
Stop that!

Things are different now! 
remember what you're good at,
and go INSIDE and get it!

When swimming in shark infested watersthe best strategy is:mind your own business,and don't show fear,You may ask yourself how you got into these dangerouswaters in the first place.Sharks are found in a few different places,at the periphery of places teaming with joy and life,such as the stunning coral reefs.Or, in deep dark waters where they never sleep.They are opportunists, they seek those who have lost their way,who have strayed from the safety of the reef,or are all alone,out of their depth,swimming in places they don't belong.Throughout a life, that can happen from time to time.It is always better to make a course correction before the encounter,but inevitably along the way of exploration,you may find yourself swimming with sharks.You can become mesmerized when you look into the cold eyes,you get no feeling back from them,they are not a mirror,but a black hole that absorbs your light,your fear.It's okay, just look away, and keep on swimming.When you encounter them, they are a sign you areout of your league, you have a correction to make inthe direction you are taking.Mind your own business, don't try to engage,or cajole.They are impervious to any feelings other than fear.Fear they smell, fear they recognize, and with fear theywill become a danger.Stay out of the deep end,it may have a pull,the allure of waters unexplored.But if you must go, remember what we've saidabout how to swim with the sharks.

Are you finding yourselves revisiting the past?Thinking of old friends, maybe reconnecting thru social media?Have you driven by your old house or school?Maybe had the urge to take a walk in your old neighborhood?Many of you are feeling nostalgic and sentimental about your past.Do you realize that when you change the way you view your past,you change it, and in turn that changes your present and your future.When revisiting people and places that held a charge for you years ago,you are given the opportunity to see how much you have changed,How much you have grown.The eyes you see with now, and the heart you feel with, are completely different, and those are the filters thru which you now run your past.All the hard edges have been worn smooth, and you see with softness and compassion.You feel sentimental, only tenderness and nostalgia fill your heart.This is all as it should be.Changing your past by feeling this tenderness toward it,will soften many lines on your face in the present,and create a space for healing that you can carry into your future.

Now, if you are letting this latest heart opening happen,and you are getting good at observing emotions as they move thru you,and you are dancing in the highly charged particles that swirl around you from all the solar flares,you may be starting to feel a lightness to your being.Don't focus on the events happening in the world around you.Not everyone is in the same place in their journey,and it can look messy.But if you get still and take your own spiritual temperature,you must admit...things are feeling better.The last half of 2012 and the first half of 2013 were monsters!So much was going on energetically that your emotions and your bodieshave had a hard time keeping up!But a corner has been turned, and now you can just settle inand start letting yourself feel the difference.It is a feeling of being out in front of a wave, as opposed tounder it.The pressure is easing, so instead of treading water, or swimming for your life, you can flip on your back and experience that weightlessness, the lightness, floating effortlessly now, hands behind your head,smile on your face,looking up at the stars...

There is a huge heart opening opportunityhappening now.With that may come tears,palpitations,mild pain behind the heart , between the shoulder blades,and the urge to eat more chocolate ;-)Don't go into any fear around this,and don't drown yourself in too many tears.Let this opening happen, as if it were the most natural thing in the world,which it is!Stay vigilant with the observation skills we have been teaching you,knowing that the whole human race has the same opportunityfor this heart opening right now, and then let compassioncolor your observations.Man! this is an exciting and wondrous time to be alive!So many changes, so much to observe!Keep that heart opening,laugh a lot,hug a lot,write a love letter,stay open to all the possibilities,keep your sense of humor,for it is a gift you bring from home,to help you navigate these slippery timeswith ease and gracexox

Charismacha·ris·ma /kəˈrizmə/Noun1). Compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.2). A divinely conferred power or talent.It is always so interesting when we place a word in her head and she feels compelled to look up the definition.She had no idea that charisma was considered "divinely conferred"......but we did ;-)Everyone has charisma, everyone!Some just let it shine more than others.Babies have it in spades, and it is un censored,hence the spell they cast over their world.They definitely inspire devotion!There is a frequency transmitted as charisma.Dial it up, you are a politician, or a movie star.Dial it down, you are invisible to others.You can cast a spell with charisma.Ask any lover how they feel when they see theirbeloved across a crowed room.Charisma is letting the divine within you shine thru.With some it is innate.Others need to practice.but you all have it, we aren't kidding!Becoming charismatic in your own life,is holding that confidence,that within you resides something sobeautiful, so powerful and so divine thatit is a magnet to others,and a call to do the same.

Finding and maintaining your spiritual equilibriumis not as easy as it used to be.It's almost as if the ground keeps moving beneath your feet,and the handrails that you relied on to keep your balance,have disappeared.It's important not to look down, not to focus too closelyon the moving ground, the waves of change that keepmoving thru.That will surely cause you to loose your balance.As these waves of change come washing in,instead look to the horizon,keep focused on where you are going.For if you focus on the speed of the changing sceneryaround you, it will make you dizzy and anxious.It just takes subtle adjustments to the way youwalk thru life.You cannot expect the terrain to remain constantright now.It may develop hairpin turns and bumpy roadsthat threaten to knock you off-balance.Becoming flexible inside this change,and keeping your sense of humor are going to bethe tools that will help you navigate these incoming waves.Both of these are very important.They will help keep steady, like a master surfer,with an economy of movement, small adjustments,with an ease and grace, and a smile on your face.